With planning a wedding often come a lot of expectations as well! Since we are both from different countries we have different traditions and religions so our guests’ expectations for the wedding might have been quite different. Everyone is saying you should do this and that and follow the traditions. As we could not possibly meet everyone’s expectations and follow the traditions from our own countries we have decided to keep the wedding really international and only keep the traditions that worked for us. To be completely honest some of them were quite outdated and not necessary in my opinion. I think that the wedding should be exactly how you want it and it’s all about celebrating your love and union and being happy in the end!
HAVING THREE WEDDINGS!
A lot of people asked why are you having three weddings? Everyone had an opinion about this topic. The answer is: this is what we wanted! We were both very happy and grateful to have the opportunity to celebrate our wedding in two amazing locations with the people we love.
I know that the tradition is to have the civil wedding and church ceremony in the same day but let me explain our choice to do it differently.
First of all the civil wedding was actually made before just because in Dubai you have to be legally married already in order to get married. We chose to have the legal documents done in Germany as it’s a lot easier than in Dubai. This was very intimate only with our families and closest friends.
The wedding in Dubai was particularly special for me. Dubai is our home and I really love this city and the sea and I could not possibly imagine not getting married here as well. Our wedding in Dubai had mostly different guests than the one in Germany. We celebrated with our families, friends and most of them were actually our friends from Dubai. It would have been quite difficult for all our relatives and friends to fly to Dubai as the flight is quite long.
The castle wedding in Germany was the most important from all of them because all of our families, relatives and friends were there and we had our church ceremony and God’s blessings.
We were very happy with all of our celebrations and you only get married once so we really wanted to make something special that we will remember forever!
GETTING READY TOGETHER ON THE WEDDING DAY!
To be honest we kept the tradition in Dubai and we only saw each other at the aisle but we were both much more nervous the morning of the wedding and we decided to skip this tradition in Germany and just be together and start our special day together. This was one of the most beautiful moments from the wedding day. We were both so happy and relaxed and just seeing my husband there when I woke up made me so calm and happy. It gave us sometime alone to just take it all in and be happy for our special day.
GIVING THE SPEECH TOGETHER!
We have both worked so hard with all the wedding planning and we both wanted to say thank you to our guests and everyone that helped. I know that the tradition is that only the husband gives the speech but things have changed so much and the role of the women has changed and evolved so much nowadays.
The speech was so important and made me really happy to have the chance to say thank you to my husband, family and friends and all of our guests. I am not gonna lie tears were shared but there were tears of happiness and gratitude. I would highly recommend that you give a speech at your wedding! Everyone will truly appreciate it and you will feel amazing afterwards.
HAVING TWO DIFFERENT RELIGIONS IN OUR CHURCH CEREMONY!
I know that usually either the wife or husband converts to the other’s religion but we kept our owns and decide to have a mixed ceremony orthodox and protestant and brought one of my family friends that is a priest and very close to me to give us God’s blessings and this was really special that I got to have the priest I knew and I grew up with there for us.
NOT HAVING A GODMOTHER AND GODFATHER!
I know that this is not common in many countries but in Romania there is a tradition that every couple that is getting married has to have “spiritual parents” to guide them through life. This was something that didn’t work for us as we didn’t find it necessary to have them since we already have our bridesmaids and groomsmen. Obviously for my family and friends was more hard to understand why I didn’t have them but in the end they forgot about it.
What are the traditions that didn’t work out for you on your wedding day? Would you do anything differently if you had the chance? Let me know in the comment section and thank you for stopping by.